Many people are feeling overwhelmed by the need to achieve, the complexity of competition, and a fear of failure or rejection. As a result their self-confidence is like the mystical unicorn — elusive and seldom, if ever, seen. You will probably never catch a unicorn, but here are five steps to help you capture your self-confidence.

1) Focus on what’s right, not what’s wrong. Know your shortcomings and weaknesses, but it’s ineffective to constantly focus on them and what could go wrong. That thinking can nullify your strengths and kill your self-confidence.

Complete and constantly say the following phrases to build confidence:
1. I have a good chance of succeeding because…
2. Everything will work out because…
3. Today is going to be an extraordinary day because…
4. I’m great for this position or opportunity because…

2) Visualize Your Victory. Your unconscious mind makes no distinction between imagination and reality. If you imagine having confidence then you will actually experience being confident.

Take time to visualize victory. Daily, imagine what you will see, hear, feel, taste, and smell during your victory. Envision yourself successfully achieving your desired outcome. The more detailed your visualization, the more powerful your confidence will be.

3) Thoroughly prepare and be authentic. It’s difficult to be confident when you’re not prepared and pretending to be something that you’re not. Thoroughly prepare and keep it real. Be authentic. As you prepare, focus on what’s right, visualize your victory, and…

4) Avoid Disaster Dan and the Taverns of Turmoil. A Disaster Dan (someone that never has anything good to say) can mess with your mind. You talk about how things will be great and they tell you how everything is going to fall apart. You should tell people like that absolutely nothing.

Don’t tell them about your dreams, aspirations, or goals. Don’t even tell them your name, email address, or where you live. These kinds of people dwell in Taverns of Turmoil – negative environments – which should be avoided at all costs.

5) Set bite-sized goals and celebrate success. When a task, goal, or obstacle appears to be insurmountable your self-confidence can begin to wane. The good news, however, is that small, successful experiences can produce more confidence. As your confidence grows, celebrate and set another small goal. Celebrate again. This technique is a tremendous confidence booster.

Self-confidence is a priceless asset that will frequently tip the odds in your favor. Keep your self-confidence from being like the unicorn – elusive and seldom, if ever seen. Harness the power of self-confidence because with it you’ve already won.

“Proceed with [con] faith [fidence] in yourself.”